Sometimes you just have to ...

We all need a hobby

It's not that I am not happy with my life.  My husband is wonderful, we have a great house (even if it needs some upgrading), my family is doing well and I am gainfully employed.  I am not going to sit here and complain about horrible things in life, but sometimes we just have to find an outlet for things.  Once a week my job requires a very long commute.  Roundtrip is about 4 hours.  I love to go to the other office and visit my fellow co-workers and cavetch about nothing in particular, but I am not happy with the situation.  It makes me hate my job sometimes. 
I have created an outlet for myself in paintball.  In paintball I can completely forget about the troubles of the past or coming week and just have fun and do me.  Everyone in life needs to find their own hobby that they truly enjoy for themselves.  It doesn't have to be a physical hobby, it could be as simple as reading or even playing video games.  But remember that it is a hobby and there is real life outside of it.  Don't let your hobby overwhelm your life or make you forget about responsibilities.  And conversely don't let responsibility or people make you forget about your hobby.
And always make sure your hobby is your own.  Don't do something just because the person you are seeing or trying to pursue has chosen this as their hobby.  If it piques your interest, then try it out!  But if the moment you drop that person, you drop the pursuit than it never was your hobby to begin with.  Find what you love and do it for you not for anyone.

Sometimes you just have to ...

If you don't know who you are, how can you be you?

"It's dangerous to go alone. Take this." they said.

We've all known at least one person in our life who seemed to have no mind of their own.  Their hobbies, interests and activities revolved around others, typically a significant other.  Most of us may have even gone through this phase while finding ourselves.  I don't think it odd to get into a relationship and keeping hobbies and interests after the demise of said relationship.  Isn't that what life is all about?  New experiences.  Finding out who you are at the core and what you want to do?
But what if there is no you?  What if all your interests are those of another's?  You go from group of friends to group of friend dependent on who you are dating because at your core, you don't know yourself.  At what age is it no longer acceptable to aimlessly wander through your own life without any interests you can purely call your own?
Let's not get into the nitty-gritty debate of becoming a new person every 7 years or how as you grow older your interests and hobbies may or may not change.  Also, regardless of age, it's always fine to pick up somebody's interest and adopt it into your own life.
The root of what I'm getting at is dropping interests you had for years and participated in because you're new significant other does not follow them.  You stop hanging with your usual friends and surround yourself with theirs.  What do you make of someone like that?  Would you want to be friends if going in you knew it inevitable they would leave when the new significant other came into play?
I have no answers to the questions I am posing.  And more than anything I feel sorry for people as thus.  I think once you navigate the treacherous waters of your youth by your mid-twenties you should at least have some clue of who you are, what you want to be and where you're going.  If by then you don't seem to have a single thought you can call you're own, well then, you probably are destined to spend the rest of your life roaming mindlessly through this thing we call life.